When clients come in for their first session, so many say the same things.
First they say, “Wow, I can’t believe I’m here. I felt so anxious about starting therapy that I almost didn’t show up!” When the session ends many say something along the lines of, “Whoa! So this is how it works. I actually feel really relieved, have some ideas to think on and next session would like to work more on ____”.
I love my job but I understand why people are anxious when it comes to seeing a therapist. I absolutely, 100%, no question, felt the same way about counselling. So, I thought about the misconceptions quite a bit and this morning, had a nice chat with my colleague changed my blog topic for the week. Here are some myths about counselling, and here’s why they don’t hold up.
So, what are the myths around counselling and the therapeutic process?
Can you identify yourself below?
Myth: People who go to counselling need help with a specific problem.
Busted: While it’s true that many people come in to discuss a specific problem in their life that they haven’t been able to figure out, usually the issue is not isolated. Going deeper into a client’s situation (and this does not mean drudging up the past) often allows for insight into patterns and actions that disrupt more than one specific area of this person’s life. Usually, the main issue clients initially come in to work on is a symptom of something larger. Learning about these areas in ourselves is a great way to gain insight and figure out how to learn and grow from the experience.
Myth: Waste of time, Waste of money.
Busted: Counselling does not have to be all about a client’s problems. For many clients, their sessions are a part of their weekly, or monthly self-care regimen. Counselling is assists growth. Just as we buy healthy food and gym memberships to take care of our bodies, counselling is a way to nourish our minds and bodies, and replenish our sense of purpose. The space and energy held in a therapy session is special and can feel just as energizing and encouraging as a run in the park.
Myth: I don’t need help.
Busted: Everyone needs help in something and asking for it is a massive step. Unfortunately, the people who think they don’t need to talk are usually those who need it most but fear the process and what might come up. Therapy is empowering, and some sessions can also be quite difficult. I’m not saying we should all be in therapy forever, but it is good to try everything at least once.
Myth: I have great friends and family, why spend money on therapy?
Busted: Friends and family are necessary supports in our lives, that’s true. However, the working relationship and energy that is created in session feels completely different. Another major difference is that therapists won’t advise you of what you should or shouldn’t do. Ever heard the saying about shoulding yourself in the foot? There is a real difference here. Therapists hold space for a client to explore their circumstances. Furthermore, many of us are trained in specific ways to assess, or approach, client’s differently. Friends and family are imperative however, when needing a place where confidentiality and safety are key, counselling may be the better option.