What are support systems?
Simply put, a support system is made up of people who you can count on to be there for you when you need encouragement, an ear to listen, or a space to laugh.
Why Are Support Systems Important?
Support systems are arguably one of the most useful ways to get through the rough patches that you encounter. When you are struggling with a decision, an idea, or a situation, turning to people who you trust to get perspective can be useful. Also, knowing that you can trust someone to listen can often be a relief in itself. Support systems are also a network of people who want to celebrate your wins with you!
Support networks are useful in allowing people to feel less alone in what they’re going through, whether it’s a positive or negative experience. While you are a pillar of strength on your own, people are beings who are based in connectedness. Support systems help facilitate your difficult periods, and allow for comfort and a place of safety during periods of uncertainty or frustration.
Some people have great support systems or networks, while others struggle in finding that connection.
Some tips for building a network:
First we can start with the foundation of your network. For some, this means family and/or friends. Being open and honest with what’s going on for you allows others to learn about your story, and offer empathy regarding your experience. Speaking openly can be difficult. Rome wasn’t built in a day, so sharing slowly and taking your time with what you choose to share is A-OK.
While this seems easy enough, a lot of individuals struggle with opening up about their experiences, and find speaking to others more anxiety provoking than helpful. If this sounds familiar to you, remember sharing a little bit is no problem. Also, building a network when you’re in a new city, or space in our lives, can be a lot more difficult than many expect.
If you’re not sure where to find others to begin creating a network with (offline), here are some places you might consider exploring:
Immediate circles (friends & family)
Work environments (coworkers)
School (if applicable)
Communities (volunteering, getting out to community events)
Religious/Spiritual meetings
Health Professionals that support healthy living & self-care (therapy, fitness trainer, nutritionist…)
Hobby classes or Meet-ups (art class, writing workshop, cooking class)
Creating our own groups (book clubs, poetry slam meet-ups, advocacy for a common interest)
Sports or regular exercise classes (teams, intramural sports, yoga, spin)
Creating our own groups (book clubs, advocacy for a common interest, business empowerment groups)
Sometimes people aren’t sure where to begin. Asking questions and finding your network will facilitate some rough patches. If you know where to find a network, but anxiety is stopping you, start small. Not to worry, support networks can take time. Patience and curiosity are important!